Today you gave vent?

The survival pressure, various load, are heavily huge closely likes one covers rushes about on road we. In order to trade salary high some work, we work by torchlight promote oneself; Becomes outstanding for in office field energy, we endure humiliation furiously contend fiercely; In order to may the transferor person cross on has the quality the life, our heart always lives is not that relaxed... ... We are group of people which needs to obtain divulges. Between is depressed and pours out, we are not willing to let the person see the innermost feelings the heaviness, therefore rather chooses and the silence. The silence is a gold, sometimes also is cruelly harms to the innermost feelings one kind. Therefore, arises at the historic moment gives vent to the ball, gives vent, gives vent to the fruit, gives vent to the wall, gives vent to the game, gives vent gasifies the person and so on one all to flee, both may shun the world heartily releases the mood, and can not injury and be innocent. And what is more, the community sends out, each person respectively wraps an one-roomed, gives vent to extremely, why not? But also some people proposed questioned: These give vent the stage prop really can achieve gives vent goal? Our self-confidence and the courage really can make up the vitality after giving vent to embark again? Actually gives vent to the stage prop is the gas station or does for the occasion the thing -
Gives vent well is for lives well
Director Zhu 29 year old of editorial department
I window-shop area the Xiu water, accidentally discovered roadside the small merchants are selling one kind of novel small gadget. Peddles the commerce maliciously falls a quite stout and strong red pig in the cement on, after moment weak, it restored the original condition, really is mysterious pig which is individualistic! I suddenly like on this kind of young gadget. The small merchant said this calls "to give vent to the ball", now sells very much the fire, very many 领 all use to give vent to the ball to divulge melancholy and the pressure. Looked I happy do not control self pinch that only fat pig, the small merchant vigorously agitate me to buy, said very cheaply, only then two Yuan. An my tone bought the fat pig, had the thorn the sphere, the ugly face, the spider variant's head picture, tomato 5 gives vent to the ball, altogether only 10 Yuan. Said with small merchant's speech that, 10 Yuan can give vent to every day a good mood! Feeling or value.
Went home, hides in the room, but also quietly caged. Does not want to let the parents in discover oneself wraps to give vent to the ball, does not want to see their meaning look. Regarding already 29 year-old unmarried unmarried woman, I simply have become the old father maid biggest worry and the burden. Therefore, they unexpectedly carry me to register for me participate in the television station "the rose approximately" that kind of marriage seeker program. I have revealed a young face under two old pressures, henceforth harmed me to become in the circle the person to discuss the capital. Others also all thought I was cannot marry anxiously am insane, even if I had eight open mouth also do not talk clearly this matter. Simply henceforth sticks to one's own way of doing things, but hears to the old father maid's behind whisper, I or the heart saves feels ashamed, such big all has not been able old to let two after all be relieved. May marry? Marries for who? Marries or marries the life for the moral behavior which wants for one kind? Marries or marries for the love for a paper marriage contract? This all is a matter which the consideration considers again, where has wants to result in that easily! Previous generation helps one another in difficult time accompanies together to the old day, our this generation of person only can the pictures of cakes appease hunger. The old father maid did not understand that, I sometimes also do not talk clearly. This is the life remains for me together the difficult problem, is in a dilemma cannot untie.
At the enterprise pressure, compared to it life in difficult problem, only has the very difficult share son. We are may be called a social pressure biggest generation of person, the body place house price high, the vehicle rental fee high, the medical expense high "three are high" the time. In the past the government subsidy to farmers in drought or raining incidents, treated in a unit for a lifetime, went to work the retirement all is the country domestic, both had the pension and to have the big sickness medicine to guarantee, anything did not need excessively to worry. But our this generation of person has only is the youth and is on the run. The house, the vehicle as well as the future will care for the aged the self-preservation money, all will have own minute minute place toward to return makes. In writing this circle, has a homemade word to be called "the hand to stop the mouth to stop". Meaning obviously, pressure it can be imagined. Also only can stuffily in the heart, say with the parents that, only can the person add their worry. With the friend, the colleague say? Everybody so, shoulder the huge debt to resemble is oneself repays a debt, everybody does not want to become the others not good mood the recycling station. But we, also must frequently engage in introspection, do not have to become the modern age .
5 give vent to the ball, lets my pain and is joyful is consuming the night lonely time. It is quietly no matter what I organize, a while paralysis on the floor, a while lies prone on the wall falls down, a while is rubbed in my fingertip pinches the distortion. Gives vent to the ball very softly, the pliable elasticity actually very full, also restores the ability to be strong. In an instant, in the heart constrains, is resentful, the resentment, depressed along with gives vent to the ball that moment volatility, the volatility which ejects, is volatilized again! Until the mood is clear.
The afterwards day, regularly, I all can lock oneself in the room, lets give vent to the ball temporarily to remove in all sorts of lives and the work for me exhaustedly with constrains. Had gave vent the ball day, I discovered own bad mood shifted express, also did not have that many numerous trivial matters to be pent-up to the heart, every day could place oneself by the best condition to the duty field. The mood good natural facial expression is good, but outside glows by appearance which in, lets my turning head rate change increasingly high.
Testimony I grew maturely with give vent to the room
Wei Wei peaceful 26 year old of liberal professions
I am a professional person. Pursues freely always is my ideal life style. In order to be ideal, after I on have not exited the graduation look for the work. Does not want to receive the restraint which faces nine is late five perhaps works overtime. My idle tax in the home, on sometimes accesses the net or reads, or is window-shops, with the good friend telephone gruel, approximately several donkeys friends climbs a mountain the traveling. The parents only an my such daughter, I do not need to help out with family expenses, they said so long as I joyful were good. Like this crossed for a year, with in the university almost, dispels fatigue leisurely and carefree, felt all are the slow rhythms, has caressed the time like the cello. When the schoolmates dine together, but also all said especially envies me, went to work really is too weary too is tired. The second year, contacted again with the before good friend, gave birth day after day the mutual lack of understanding has pulled open between me and them the distance. They march into day after day the duty field , in the mouth already is not youth campus that set. Naturally the unnatural subcrust current dew comes out all is , raise in salary, changes job, goes abroad and so on the reality passes through, moreover in the speech the speech outside areas insinuated I too , too has idealized, moreover added I am "gnaw the old race". The common language friend very quickly becomes estranged the stranger.
In this year, the father suddenly died lets me and the mother is caught off guard. The fathers all have since always been in family's backbone, is our mind complete strut and the dependence. Looks a mother night of thin and pale senility, I knew oneself should support oneself. Has sent the resume, also has hit the small advertisement in the newspaper which responds to a call for recruits to seek employment, may not find suits own work. Specialized left uncultivated lets me become a useless person as if. 8,900 dollars low firewood posts let me feel is not resigned to. Falls all of a sudden into from princess's ideal life to the world of mortals common custom in, I simply want to cry but have no tears. Father's dying, not merely only I and in the mother mind the permanent pain, in the economy in straitened circumstances also let me understand day by day any called the true industry and thrift.
In 2006 the second half year, I on-line opened to specialize in selling the Tibet silver accesories the shop. After the shop is open for business, certainly has not imagined such bustling place. Not high clicking on rate lets my pressure be specially big. Puts out the mother to remain the infinite the old age pension to open the shop, I did not know how faces the mother. Movie "Pattern Time passage" the ending, liang dynasty great treats a tree hole to pour out the concern... ... I also want to look for a tree hole, heavily with constrains the heart in entirely pours out. Is in such extreme is despondent, I enter to give vent to - you to be allowed to wrap an one-roomed. In here, your any not good mood all may get rid through you way, throw off. You may scold, may burst into tears, loudly cry, to clamor, the hysteria... ... A four walls sound absorption one-roomed this moment only belongs to you, indulges for yours mood. I have gone to 23, collects fees is not very high. 1 hour 20 Yuan. After dissolute weeping bitterly, I discovered own mood were much better. The mother said I am a strong girl, beforehand has been more sensible than, also looked after the household. Actually I knew I should thank that to give vent, it has made my not good mood recycling station, was testimony I grew with the mature room.
After the Tibet silver shop has an income, I on-line opened to monopolize the pregnant woman and the baby thing shop. Is every day busy the delight. In Yu Xiali which idly gets down, I can lead the mother to exit take a walk, the hand pulls begins, to pass through in the city these variegated or the ancient street. Once, unexpectedly passed by that to give vent. The mother asked what my that is? I think that, said that is may let the mind peacefully get down, restarts on a journey place.
Gives vent to the stage prop really to be able the relief pressure?
Wooden 28 year old teacher
As a high second year class's teacher in charge, I and the students relations processes quite harmoniously. They have any fresh thing and have the creativity the program to be able to invite me to participation together. I am in students eye teacher, also is their friend and elder brother. They like calling I am "the mind pastor", I also like this nickname.
When one day quickly finishes class, in a class's male student looks like from the coat pulls out an any thing, falls toward the school desk on. I feel a surprise. The students tell me that to call to give vent to the ball! Was small gadget which one kind just drew a charge, was especially amusing. Was saying flap next many students pull out all kinds of from the school desk give vent to the ball: Egg, strawberry, orange, rubber ball, tomato... ... They said must demonstrate to me looked, a perfect tomato maliciously falls toward the place on, only listens to "pa", the tomato to fall pile of muds. But after several seconds, it had restored the original appearance. It is said, this kind lets the person relief pressure give vent to the ball nowadays to sell very much the fire. The price is inexpensive, 23 Yuan, has the market very much in the middle of the student.
After the class and other classes' teachers in charge have linked up, the original each class and grade plays gives vent to the ball students minority all not in. Therefore, I also specially held a class meeting, the subject am give vent to the ball really to be able to help our relief pressure? The majority of students approve give vent to ball this kind of stage prop (for example also to have give vent to fruit, give vent to wall, give vent to game, on-line give vent gasify person and so on), they thought gives vent to the ball to be allowed to fill a prescription the tense high school to study the life, is affable continuously is stretching every day nerve. In furiously throws down and breaks gives vent to the ball instantaneous, can realize to one kind of greatly quick dripping pleasant sensation. Does not have a pressure body to be light, thus can invest well into the study in. Little the partial schoolmates hold the opposition manner, thought gives vent to the ball if may replace the pressure which we undertakes, we also need assiduously to study every day for the result? Gives vent to the ball certainly not to be able to get up the enhancement academic record basic goal, we obtain each progress all is oneself exerts oneself the diligently result. But the pressure release is not through gives vent to stage prop this kind of way, but is through the innermost feelings adjustment . Excessively blindly believed in gives vent to the ball actually is only one kind of psychological process, if is gives vent to the ball to be able to give vent to our not good mood, was inferior to said it uses "gives vent" the shop to be born, we only are been fresh by it and "fall do not die" attract... ...
Is at this class meeting, I joyfully discovered the schoolmates have grown up, the treatment thing has own analysis judgement ability. Although a series of gave vent to the stage prop to go on the market on the surface to win the student market, but I will want continuously for a long time hence, its malpractice to be able gradually to appear, for example was disadvantageous to student's mind growth, could not guide the student correctly to regard between the study and the pressure two relations well, even also could encourage some kind of not good violence tendency multiplying.
The expert looks at the spot:
Gives vent solves the mood question only way
Xiao far psychology consultation teacher
Shui Manze overflows, the bad mood accumulates too much also needs to have an export, suppresses constantly only can create the harm to the healthy in mind and body. Constrains the passive mood for a long time to the health disadvantageous, because sad, the worry, is intense, mood and so on anxiety, anger can cause in vivo physiological activity change, produces the deleterious substance, finally causes each kind of disease, like gastric ulcer, heart disease, hypertension, headache and so on. The mood constrains to the psychologically healthy influence also is obvious, anxious, is despondent, psychological barrier and so on force all possibly occurs. The mood is not good, the working efficiency can drop, the interpersonal relationship also can therefore suffers injury. Obviously, the passive mood needs to give vent, but does not divide the situation, the object wilfully gives vent obviously is not good. Thereupon the people invent give vent to the ball, give vent to the room, give vent to the game and so on the safe mood to give vent to the way. Exactly said that, this kind has the choice harmlessly, gives vent may be called divulges, is alleviates the pressure, one of improvement mood effective methods.
Divulges although is effective, but is not solves the pressure and the mood question panacea. Similarly is in under the pressure situation, why do some people go hand to hand, some people are beset with difficulties? This indicated each person has the difference in the processing environment pressure and the withstanding setback aspect ability. Discovers the question from the source to be at, enhances a person's work and the life adaptiveness, may avoid very many nonessential pressures and the mood question. This is more positive effective alleviates the pressure the way. If after we only can simply and so on the pressure produce gives vent to it, then cannot ponder the pressure produces reason, also cannot solve on own initiative causes not the good mood the root question, likes in the Greek mythology to be the coolie on the god mountain the youth, each time after his untold hardships finally push up a big stone the summit, the stone can roll immediately falls to the mountain bottom, this kind of invalid work starts once again, forever without limits. Take the interpersonal relationship as an example, young Bai frequently has the contradiction when the work with the colleague, the mood is not good gives vent gives vent to, but second days go to work, the thorny question still suspends at the front. Afterwards he through the psychological consultation, had discovered own in associate the question with the person which in the process exists, thereupon adjusts to the other people the high expectation, and the practice enhances own communication skill, afterwards in the work could well the solution and colleague's communication and the cooperation question. The colleague related harmoniously, the mood was also good, he very few went to that family to give vent again.
Divulges regarding alleviates the pressure and the passive mood function quite is direct-viewing obviously, therefore generally is accepted by the person, but it is not the only effective method. In fact, may adopt the many kinds of stratification planes facing the pressure and the mood question should to the strategy, (pours out), the shift including the communication exchange, seeks help and solves the problem and so on. Take the shift as the example, the mood is melancholy when certainly is not only has divulges this Lu Ke to walk, but also some many other means may improve the mood, for instance the sports, the change environment, are engaged in make the person mood happy activity and so on, cannot let the negative event and the passive mood occupies the life the main space. If you live only have a melancholiest matter, then the melancholy mood is 100%; If has 10 different matters to be allowed to do, calculated has a half matter to cause the person to be melancholy, the melancholy mood also only has 50%. Therefore the manufacture and the experience joyful ability are deals with the pressure and the bad mood powerful weapon. Seeks the specialized help and tries to find solution to solve the realistic problem also is the effective way. In brief, cannot give vent takes the solution mood question the only outlet.
The academic society divulges
Xiao peak psychology consultation teacher
Healthy adaptiveness including two aspects: One, controls not suitable sentimental the expression, two is in the suitable time expression above sentiment.
Human's not good mood, must have "spits" the way and the place, was similar to the earthquake, the energy liberation, also was tranquil. Best can through release the small energy to decompose the big energy many times, otherwise saves too many, round then can be earthshaking.
Has a popular song to sing: "The life likes a group hemp", remembers very some truths. The life in the modern society's people, often deeply deeply puzzles by the life inherent worry and the time pressure. The interpersonal relationship contradiction, to future worrying, the studies enterprise pressure, emotion pestering and so on melancholily causes with the injury, angry, to be sad, to worry the resentment and so on not good mood, often heartlessly is gnawing people's mind, is hindering people's normal study, the life, the work. Since the mind is impossible is one 泓 forever the tranquil lake water, when turns wells up the muddy mighty waves, needs is correct unblocks and divulges.
What is correct divulges the way? Pours out, the movement, sings loudly, roars, the traveling, rips the paper, looked the cartoon, strikes the sandbag, plays the game... ... In brief, divulges the method has, is not certainly troublesome, is not certainly difficult to seek. But, suits when the establishment own not good mood divulges with the psychological adjustment concrete way, must pay attention to following several points:
Feasible Yi Xing. Is said divulges the way to have to suit you "the national condition", is easy to implement, does not need the specially complex condition. For instance has boss to meet when the life pressure or the setback is overweight, abandons all, goes to the theater to guard the threshing floor the movie. The movie great scene, the unconstrained fluctuation plot, let him put behind own small worried all of a sudden. But you if are the student, the current economic condition is not good, you choose looked the movie the way possibly is not convenient, is not realistic. You must find to you said the implementation simple way, for instance the climb up far looks, finds the friend to pour out possibly quite is appropriate.
Does not have the side effect. Very many females meet worriedly, likes with fiercely eating the thing the way to carry on the self- adjustment, the result more eats fat. But along with build embarrassed, own even more regretted, also worry, thereupon started fiercely to eat, has formed the vicious circle. When also some people, in heart not happy, likes with flushing the person to get angery, to smoke excessive drinking, the autonomy from is oppressive and so on not the good way to express. These ways not only cannot truely effectively eliminate not the good mood, but also can to own healthy in mind and body, with other people's relations, own real life and the future can have "the poisonous side effect".
In when its solid had not the quick matter, after for instance receives the leadership criticism, may greatly give vent to on a paper, writes its "the smell of gunpowder to be full, the revenge vigor flushes the day" all not to hiner, so long as be not discovered the line.
Not only. Some people as soon as have worried, only can find the friend to relate. Although each time related after, own have been happy, but others not necessarily always have spatially? Like this once lost poured out the object, own also did not have other to divulge the way, was worried then for a very long time cannot eliminate. Therefore the psychological adjustment way cannot too be unitary, too relies on a Yu fixed object. If pours out to you is specially effective, then you should have wide acquaintance the friend, many helps the other people. Like this when mood not good, then cannot only have to pour out the object but not to have other choices, this calls the East not the bright west to be bright.
Evil spirit mirror test: How after suffers setbacks you to be able to give vent?
A supposition beautiful woman stands nearby the street and so on the person, actually has a man all around to pace back and forth in her for a long time, you thought which kind of appearance this man can be below?
A. Some six myo- are healthy very male
B। Walks refined route demeanour
C। 其貌不扬 wisdom male



D. Contour dreadful strange uncle
Chooses A person: When you come under the attack, gives vent to the road is the most expensive way. You can choose spend buy all the way, the as if regardless of all consequences blood spells, may let the brain mentality which you puzzles, also can with be unobstructed. All cheap and expensive goods, you all catch the whole lot in a dragnet, should buy and should not buy also all together buys back the family, temporarily with the pressure said breaks off a relationship.
Chooses B person: You suffers setbacks which in the reality, is wants to obtain other ways the pleasant sensation, shifts you to frustrate the feeling, reconstructs the self-confidence once again. This plants the heavy medicine the way, said to you specially effectively. For example discussed again a love, conquers the desire with the love in, perhaps is held by the spouse in 手掌心 spoils the feeling, originally makes up you to lose the psychology, before forgot meets with defeat.
Chooses C person: In you felt suffered setbacks at that time, gave vent to the way quite strangely, you were not alone a person, was stuffy is not speaking, lets the observer innermost feelings feel restless, was makes the special behavior which departed from the classics and, like operated the ultra express train or borrows the liquor to install insanely, has the matter which a night of sentiment and so on usually could not go does. Borrows is making these not to gather the common sense the action, frightens a ticket originally to know you the person, you can find the liberation pressure the exportation.
Chooses D person: Your innermost feelings security sense seriously lacks, the self-confidence is also insufficient. When bumps into the setback, you even more are afraid alone a person to face, always thought some people accompany. If nobody accompanies, you want to ask the person to chat, in chats in the Eight Diagrams to shift your anxious mood. Really does not have when the backing army reenforces, you use the way which fiercely eats fiercely drinks, the packing void stomach department also to comfort the head which indulges in flights of fancy.
This publication viewpoint:
Gives vent to the ball as well as a series of enters the political arena gives vent to the stage prop, lets me remember this publication had done "the baby" topic. Former is melancholy gives vent the pressure in public, latter hides in the hidden place, the two has the equally good results from different methods place, but all belongs to the newly emerging things which is fleeting. It stimulates, freshly, is amusing, the fashion may attract part of young people, the university student, goes to work the eyeball, but it really can release our pressure, relax us because the work life load brings tense and the restless mood? Waits for the discussion.
In the interview, some have the life to review in succession, the innermost feelings relative stabler mature public figure indicated, when they faced with pressure, slightly pours with 35 good friends chats perhaps looks for a teahouse to adore the long talk, gentle lives simply in one kind in the exchange atmosphere, is anxious and the exhausted feeling can obtain effectively alleviates. Sometimes, the good friend supplies ideas perhaps several periods clear languages can let you be filled with wisdom, hinders own bottleneck instant to vanish into thin air. Obviously, pours out with the person may obtain the effective mood to comb.
Also some participants indicated, when is near in front of the huge pressure, might as well chooses some movements, for example climbs a mountain, jogs, jumps holds, the swimming and so on. Temporarily puts behind in the large scale movement exhaustedly, and so on had body perspiration, felt the god clears vision clearly time, the solution difficult problem plan has not met however to the chest. Accidental pleasantly surprised is, you can know the friend which has the personal status to load on the way you the brain trust, waited for some day friendship is mature, the resources sharing advantage bows the head may ascend. Or might as well chooses the music which listens to you to like, the classics well is also popular, R&B, the opera, the folk song, all by own like taking responsibility. This is the life in elsewhere, trades one kind of angle to ponder, the question sometimes also can be easily solved.
Remembered television station's once to interview worked as the red star, she said how she always didn't want to solve the problem, met when the question that was being stuffy, and so on which has one day turned head, suddenly discovered that original manuscript was called as "the question" the question no longer is already existed. This does not lose is road of the one kind of solution. Sometimes can suddenly not be able to find a need like us the thing, obviously remembered it puts on some place, was cannot look. Do not be irritable, first looks for an its substitute to cope with. When you do not need it, perhaps forgets it that one day, it does not have Tibet to wait for you in some place, accidental is pleasantly surprised for you. This visible is one kind of life wisdom. I try many times, unexpectedly all to withstand the time test. Several kinds divulge the pressure way everybody might as well as soon as to try.