The divorce, must respect the child the sentiment

The divorce, must respect the child the emotion Author: The child educates the net The divorce, said to divorce both sides that, is one kindmutually extricates; But said to the child that, without doubt was thekind approaches the sky such important thing - to burst. The parents divorce, cause the child to be able not but to live in ano longer perfect family, this already gave the child in the heart tothrow down a thick shadow, but some sentimental trends burst thehusbands and wives, often stemmed from own some kind of need, thenaggravated to child's injury. For instance, some divorce in the husbands and wives or the economicalreason, only considered second marriage question, when divorce hasregarded as the child the cloth wrapper burden, frivolous pushes himto push, caused the child to become "the unnecessary person", thesmall small age the ways of the world inflammation to be cooland the selfish indifference. Some were regards as the child gave vent not the quick mood object.The husbands and wives have divorced, no matter said to the groom'sfamily, or said to the bride's side, all is a not happy matter, thebody and mind is exhausted, the mood is agitated, often because oflives a unpleasant minor matter but greatly to have a fit of temper.By now often the child became these not good mood to give vent to theobject, the parents had regarded as the child the undeserved target ofanger, did not ask clear was red beats and scolds the child. Again some spoils the child constantly. Some divorce the husbands andwives in the conscience to feel oneself sorry the child, is having thedeep compunction psychology, specially wants reliably to set up andchild's emotion, in to the child in the manner, displays for spoilsconstantly, goes all out to spoil, to child's insufficient ballshortcoming, also because feared injuried the child originally on todivorce in the parents changes the frail heart, but turned a blindeye, laissez faire no matter. Because has the compunction psychology with these to the child butexcessively not to spoil to the child differently is, has some todivorce in addition the parents, because loses the confidence to ownmarriage, also loses the confidence to individual future, thereuponthen own life hoped reposes on the child body, earnestly hopes thechild to grow up, has an achievement. Therefore Yang studies on and inthe life to the child, is much harsher. According to divorces the family children's statistics to 1,000,among, 45% child have the inferiority complex, 40% child dispositioneccentric, emotion frail, 25% child mood undulation, fluctuates doesnot decide, 24% child psychology are precocious. In the tranquil family, the child is the object which pays attention.But the marriage bursts the family, the parents mutually cold war,arranges opposite party is not, the eye originally 放在心上 thechild, lives in such environment, the children worried in with inothers' contact, can ask by opposite party the family situation,therefore, changes the silence to be uncommunicative, lives a solitarylife. These children also displayed had not believed to everybody, tooneself also deficient confidence. A psychologist said that, "The parents divorce can create the childpersonality distortion. Some children cannot obtain the quantity whichshould have to sleep, gradually falls into the hoodlum group, fromsteps onto the crime path." According to the concerned expertstatistics, the family which divorces in the parents, the young peoplecrime rate about 40%. Little while ago, Beijing as soon as occupied inthe common people to have to rob the burglary case, is robbed the cash100,000 Yuan. The public security department only uses 4 days time tocapture the criminal offender. After the investigation, the laborious4 day-long police officers unexpectedly did not have on a person faceto reveal the victory the smiling face, because 4 criminal offendersall are on middle school's children, 3 all live the family whichdivorces in the parents. Some for the parents, extricate their pain with the divorce way,however any painful extricating, all is must pay the price. But thiskind of price actually should not undertake by the innocent child. Wecannot prevent the occurrence which divorces, but we may also besupposed to the society to appeal for the child, must mobilize variousaspects the strength, divorces the family the enterprise injury andthe negative influence falls to the child to the most low point. Inorder to enables these children with other child equally healthgrowth. Must achieve this point, most more importantly must respect the childthe emotion and the right. The male and female both sides fate, thesentiment truly burst, chooses the divorce in the as a last resortsituation. By now, first had thought the child, for instance was notunnecessary to kick up a fuss, because kicked up a fuss can affectchild's study and the life. Can the divorce by agreement, voluntarilysolve, the agreement could not solve, resorted to the law, publicizedby the law solves the problem, in brief wanted the merry gathering andhappy parting, the civilization to bid good-bye. After divorce, alsowants the civilization to be together, the broadmindeds, maintains asfar as possible with opposite party in a friendly way, provides theloose environment for the child which is together with the parents.Regardless of you have any disaffection to opposite party, you allmust tell the child, we all "very love you", "you are his arrogant"and so on. If you with the child live in together, then, in oppositeparty looked when child, should provide biggest convenient. If thechild and opposite party lives in together, even if you are notwilling to see opposite party, but you all must pull out the time tolook after the child, in child's special holiday, you also should inthe same place, spend together the time with the child. Must by the ordinary point of view to the special child's growth, bothis not harsh and does not spoil; Must create the condition, lets thechild associate with other children; Must truthfully tell the childthe family accident the reason, even if new organization family, alsomust respect the child the sentiment.