Any is "the first revolt time"

23 year-old child generally all must pass through generally all must pass through "the revolt time", is called "the first revolt time". Originally docilely is obedient child, as soon as arrives this time to be able to change mischievously, is not obedient. For instance day air-cooled, mother lets the child put on the coat, the child actually does not put on; The visitor has come, mother lets him have politeness greeting visitor, he is pays no attention ignores. These children frequently tenaciously persist own position, then, the adult can be angry, down to possibly hits him. Actually, looked from the child physiology and the psychological development angle, this kind "revolt time" the performance is one kind of normal phenomenon. Along with baby energy enhancement, knowledge unceasingly rich, the child psychology change is sudden, specially the child needed to have the very big change, but the adult often or regarded the child with the old judgement, the request child, thus caused child's all sorts of revolts behavior. But, looking from another aspect, if child's individuality cannot obtain the development, on the contrary will be able to affect his next growth. Therefore said the experience "the revolt time" is the inevitable stage which the child normally grows. Then, how can help the child to cross this special stage? 1st, the education is a key. In this section of time, the parents must give up that kind not divide good and bad the strong manner. Should see, the child "the revolt" the behavior promotes their ability development psychological power. The adult should promptly hold this opportunity to give the suitable encouragement to child's certain behaviors, promotes the child self-awareness formation and the movement skill, the ability development. 2nd, the guardian must help the child to develop the helping hand, already cannot satisfy constantly to child's revolt behavior, also cannot excessively many limit. Satisfies constantly easily to create the child to do as one pleases with to be obstinate; Excessively many limits can dampen child's self-respect, thus changes obeys with the dependence, deficiently supports oneself the ability. 3rd, the parents in had understood child "revolt time" after characteristic, most importantly must pay attention adroitly guides action according to circumstances, assists from side, to give the correct reasonable education. For instance: The child likes independently walking, you do not want hardly to support by the arm him, may pay attention to the protection in side; The child wants own to eat meal, to put on the clothes, may let he begin, but you perform in side to instruct, to this promotes the child psychologically healthy development, helps the child smoothly to cross "the revolt time".